The terms “kink” and “fetish” are often used interchangeably, but this is not incorrect. Yes, the meanings of the terms overlap, but they are still completely different concepts.
Kink is anything that excites you. It can be a fantasy, a game, clothes, action, place, elements of appearance. Basically, anything if it turns you on.
However, even if the kink is not realized, sexual interactions will still bring you enough pleasure. That is, it is not a necessary condition for your arousal.
A fetish is a special kind of kink. Fetishes are associated with a heightened attraction to certain objects (e.g., shoes) and/or body parts that extend beyond the genitals (the most prominent example is the feet).
Fetishes are often described as “obsessions” or “passions”. A fetishist needs the object of his fetish to be present in sex, otherwise the process will not bring sexual satisfaction. For example, if you can’t enjoy sex without licking your feet, then this is a clear fetish.
❗️ At the same time, some people with fetishistic tendencies say that they enjoy sex without a fetish. That is, the arousal is enhanced if the object is present, but it will not be necessary for sexual intercourse and satisfaction.
In the case of a very persistent fetish, sexual arousal is completely dependent on the presence of the object. But this is a rather rare case, judging by my experience.
To summarize: kink is a broad term that encompasses almost any form of sexual expression.
Important to understand:
- having kinks or fetishes is not unhealthy or a sign of mental illness;
- not having kinks or fetishes is also normal.
Kinks and fetishes are considered a problem only if:
- someone fulfills their desires without respecting the culture of consent
- kinks and fetishes pose an unacceptable level of risk or harm to themselves or others;
- they lead to serious mental disorders.
The main thing is that your desires and actions do not cause discomfort either to yourself or to your partners.
Have a great and safe sex ❤️
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